Power Episode #114 – Welcome to Designing your Life Today. This is your host Pat Council. This is Thriving Thursday, and I want to talk about a very special subject. I was going to say a serious subject, but let’s call it a special subject because we’re going to deal with it and we’re going to get rid of it. In our society today, fear is it running rampant everywhere. It seems as though people are afraid of the future. They are afraid of different terrorist groups. They are afraid of what the government is going to do. They are afraid of who our president is going to be. They’re even afraid to step out and go for their dreams. So, I thought it would be great to talk about fear and how do you get rid of fear. Now, I’ve been afraid before and I’ve been afraid more than once in my life, and I reached a point where I was really afraid in certain situations about my future and how things were going to play out for my life. I decided that I was going to take control of that fear and not allow it to run my life. That is why I’m able to talk about getting rid of fear, and so, today we’re going to learn how to deal with fear and how to get rid of it.
Now, in order for me to talk about fear, I have to give you the truth about fear and what it really is, and I’m going to give you the antidote for it. When we hear about fear now days it comes from a psychologist or psychiatrist who is giving their scientific reasoning behind fear and how to get rid of it. Well, I’m going to give you an antidote that is of the mine, but it’s also of the spirit. Fear is coming from everywhere these days and I think it’s important that we address it, because it’s like any disease that you can catch. If you are consumed by it and you’re surrounded by it, then you can actually catch it. As people we can influence each other. Have you ever made a decision to do something a certain way and someone else comes along and gives you their opinion, and then you change your mind? Later you find out that you perhaps should’ve stuck with your own opinion and your own decision that you made for your life or for that situation. Well, fear is the same way. You can be excited. You can be gung ho about making something happen. You can tell yourself that you won’t let certain things in your life affect you. Then, you get around people who will start to give you all of the reasons why you should pay really close attention to this thing because of what could happen. You should take this thing more seriously because of what could happen and they start to say things that cause you to be afraid. So, I think it’s important that we talk about fear. I think we’re going to get through it today, but if not, we’re going to mix it in with our topic for tomorrow.
Fear is coming from everywhere nowadays. It’s in the news. It’s in our television shows. Unfortunately, it’s being spoken out of people’s mouths more often these days than it used to be. It is unfortunate because whatever is spoken out of our mouths or whatever we speak about on a consistent basis, it’s going to eventually be framed and it’s going to start to take root. It’s going to be given life and that’s why it’s really important that we understand fear if we want to take control of your life and if you want to be in control of a more positive and productive destiny for your life. If you want to have that dream life that you see, and not have it just be a dream or wish, you have to understand fear and learn how to deal with fear. It’s no mistake that the government chooses certain events to celebrate each year in order to remind us of some chaos that had happened and what could happen. If you really could step back and look at some of the headlines when you get close to the certain holidays, you’d see that the headline starts to speak about the bad things that are going to happen: “Around this holiday the terrorists are threatening us, and because we are celebrating this day, this is what could happen.” You’ll notice that none of it ever happens. So, it’s no mistake that the government chooses certain events to celebrate each year because if you can keep fear in the people, then you can control them. You can get them to vote the way that you want them to vote, to think the way that you want them to think, and just behave in a way that’s not necessarily good for them, but it’s more good for the government and all of their rich people. There is nothing wrong with money, but the point is that, don’t manipulate me just so you can get more of it.
The thing is, if you can put fear in a person then you can control that person. It’s a planned and organized use of fear, and when you have a planned and organized use of fear, it leads to oppression. You don’t have to hold people back because they will hold themselves back. You don’t have to take away people’s dreams because they will squash their own dreams. You don’t have to convince people that something isn’t possible, they’ll do it themselves. It’s quite important that we pay attention to fear and that we address fear so as to not allow it to take over our lives. Now, this type of fear can come from many places and not just the government. This is not a show about the government. This is about you doing what it takes to deal with fear, whether it’s coming through you, or whether it’s in a friend of yours, or it’s the people that you connect with on daily basis. This is about you being more proactive so that you can get the life that you want. That’s really what this is all about. So, fear can come from a lot of different places. It can come from your boss at work if you have a job. Our show caters more to the entrepreneur, the home-based business owners, and small business owners, but if you’re listening to this and you have a job, obviously you’re aspiring to become an entrepreneur. The point I’m making here is that it can come from your boss. For example, if you have a plan for your life and you decided that in three years you are going to go out on your own and start your own business and at work your boss is giving you such a hard time, to the point where that promotion that you could get and earn the extra money to stash away for your business does happen. You allow that to make you fearful and you start to think you’re never going to be able to leave here and get your business going. So, fear can come from many places. It can come from a friend. There are friends that bully other friends, and I’m always amazed by that. You don’t let your friends bully you. You guys are to the same age, and even if your friend is older than you, you disconnect. You’re an adult.
Fear can come from a lot of places and it brings with it a kind of oppression, and once oppression takes place, people are convinced that they have no options and that they have absolutely no recourse. That’s something that you really want to pay attention to. Oppression involves working on ignorance. I’m not calling you guys ignorant, but ignorance means that you just don’t know about a subject, or you really don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes. There’s a point in each of our lives that if we don’t pay attention to what’s really going on, or if we don’t ask questions and just take it at face value and run with it, there’s a certain level of ignorance that is going to pop up. If I take things at face value and I don’t question things, there’s a certain level ignorance that is going to pop up on my end, because I’m going to make decisions without having all of the facts or without really seeing the full picture of something. That’s what I mean when I talk about ignorance. So, oppression involves working on the ignorance, the weakness, and the fearfulness of the person being oppressed, or the person who’s the intended object of oppression. It comes about because we are buying into old wives tales, limited thinking, and flat out falsehoods. These are the things that bring about oppression, and this is also what stimulates fear. The good part is that you don’t have to tolerate fear in any way. That is what this show is all about today. It’s about getting rid of fear. I’ve heard some psychiatrists and psychologists said that a little bit of fear is good. So, let me get this straight, a little bit of poison is ok? I’m just saying…A tiny little rattlesnake bite is okay? It’s not okay. You don’t want to tolerate any kind of fear.
I’m going to share with you some ideas that you can use and they will not fail you. When fear attacks you, you have to power up and attack it right back. Subdue it. Kick it out. Get rid of it. Don’t tolerate it. Don’t put up with it. Don’t let it take over your life. That’s the important thing about fear. I’ll give you an example of how fear can really start to take root. I mentioned on the show several times about the economic downturn and how it took its toll on me for moment. I literally was just exhausted, and I’m like the Energizer Bunny. I keep going and going and going because I’m full of energy. That’s how I think I got the name the Power Lady as a speaker. I’m powered up. The thing is that is that I came home, got in the bed, got under the covers, and then shut down. I thought it was because I was just exhausted, but it wasn’t because I was exhausted. It was because I was afraid and didn’t know what to do. I forgot how powerful I was as a human being. If that happens to you, you want to realize what’s going on. Now I recovered quickly because I realized I was afraid, and that was something that I never really paid attention to. When I was in the military, I was afraid of firing a weapon at first because I’d never had my hands on a gun. However, once I started firing, I loved it. I have to admit it. I’m going to say it: Don’t take away our guns. I don’t have a gun, but the point is, I know how to shoot one and I have to admit that it’s a nice feeling to shoot at the target. We are talking about targets on paper and boards. Anyway, back to the subject. Once I realized that it was fear, I got up and I said to myself, Wait a minute, you’re afraid and that’s not allow. You’re not allowed to be afraid. Let’s kick fear right in the butt because we’re kicking it out of this house. We are not going to bring it in this house. You’re not going to let it take root, and you are going to subdue it and get rid of it. The thing about fear that is important to know is that, fear is designed to bring sickness and it’s designed to bring poverty into your life. That’s what it’s for. It’s all about just sucking the energy right out of you. If you talk about being a power lady, a power man, or powering up, a powerful man, or whatever the case is, if you’ll allow fear to come in it’s gone. I know that sometimes when there are children around we tell them that it’s okay to be afraid and that we’re all afraid at some point in time. That’s okay to say. However, you want to tell them what’s really going on, and instead of telling them that it’s ok to be afraid, you let them know what it is and you start to talk to them about fear. You don’t want to make them feel awful about being afraid. Once a kid understand that and gets it when they’re young, they grow up fearless.
Here are some tips that I’m about to give you that will help you, and if you have children it can help them to see you be fearless. As I’ve said before, fear is designed to bring sickness and poverty into your life. It will destroy your peace of mind or your peace within if you allow it to do so. So, how you get rid of fear? How do you just kick in the pants and say you I’ve had enough of this, you are out of here? The first thing you do is you attack it right back. You attack fear and you don’t cower down, and you don’t get under the cover. You don’t become a big whiny baby. You don’t start to verbalize things such as: what if this happens? What if that happens? What will I do? Where will I go? Who will save me? Save yourself. Stand up and an attack that fear. You must go straight to the core of the fearful situation. That’s how you attack fear. You go right to the core of it. For example, when I had my challenges going on, fear hit me because everything came at me all at once, and I thought that whatever this is that’s coming against give me, I don’t know what’s going on. I was afraid because of the uncertainty of it all. I recovered quickly. I didn’t stay in bed all day. I made myself get up because that’s my style. I got up and said to myself that I’m kicking fear in the butt. I got a notepad and a pen and I started to write down question: What is going on here? What is the situation that is causing me to be fearful? I started to write down fear of this and fear of that. I didn’t verbalize it; I don’t speak doom and gloom into my own life, and I’ve already been there and done that. I’ve already been through it and so I’m over it. So, whatever the thing is that you fear, you have to go straight to the core of the fearful situation. Why are you afraid? Most times it’s a fear of loss. You fear that you are going to lose something, and you want to write down what that something is. You want to face that something, because the minute you know what it is you’re afraid of losing, you then know how to do one of two things; Number one, you know how to put a plan in place immediately to be proactive. In my book, The Power: Using What you Have to Achieve Success, I talk about having a proactive plan. I wrote that book after I went through my ordeal. I knew then that it’s about being proactive and it was not about sitting around hoping, wishing, and waiting with your head under the cover. Once you realize what you’re afraid of losing, you put together a print plan to either recover what’s already been lost or to recover in a manner that you will not have that loss or suffer that loss if it’s possible. In my case, I’d already lost something, so I had to put together a plan to recover what I wanted or what I felt like I needed. So, the thing is that you must go straight to the core of the fearful situation, and the first thing that you do is attack it.
Number two is known what fear is connected to. When you start to understand more about fear, you can beat it up. You can you can kick in the pants and get rid of it. Know what fear is connected to. Fear is connected to an irrational thought that you will encounter or a situation that you cannot recover from. The truth of the matter is that you can recover from any situation that you decide that you want to recover from. Those of you that are being smart-alecky out there and you are thinking that you can’t recover from death; the fact is that you may not be able to recover physically from it, but you can do so spiritually. People talk about being afraid, or they talk about what if this happens or that happens, or they say what if you die? Well, if you die, what then? It’s over at that point, at least in this realm. So, why stress over something that may happen anyway? Understand the power that you have as a human being. You have more power than you know, and that is why I said that you can recover from anything that you decide to recover from. Take that and you use that. Don’t just give in and give up, or simply let something subdue you. If you decide that you don’t want to leave this earth, come up with a plan and be proactive about your life. Be proactive about what you want, and I’m going to give you some weapons against fear that will help you be proactive in a very clear and strong manner. The first thing that you’re going to do is attack it, and the second thing is figure out what the fear is connected to. I just told you that it is connected to an irrational thought that you will encounter or a situation that you cannot recover from.
Here’s the third one. You want to be clear about who you are and how you were made. What’s in you? I’ve said this on the show several times. When I talk about the way to real wealth, I find that most people aren’t wealthy because they’re afraid to go for what it is they think that they deserve. One of my favorite scriptures is: You’ve not been given a spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind. We don’t have a spirit of fear. So, psychologists and psychiatrists who think that they know everything about the mind will come up with a new discovery perhaps five years down the road. They don’t know everything. The thing is that we have not been given a spirit of fear, and as such there is no room for fear. You don’t want to tolerate it. You want to attack it as soon as it pops up. Stand up to it, and the quicker you stand up to it, the less grief you’re going to have. You’re going to have less stress. You’re going to have less pain. I’m talking about emotional pain. You are going to feel stronger. If you still have a feeling of fear after hearing me tell you that you’ve not been given a spirit of fear, but of power love and a sound mind, then you’re not connected to your power source. That may sting a little. Your power source is God. There’s just no other way for me to say that because we’re talking about a spirit of fear, which tells us that fear is of a spiritual nature. So, if you want to get rid of fear then understand what it is. It’s a spiritual force, which means that you have to attack it with spiritual weapons. I’m going to give you your weapons and these are good weapons. All of us have them. You have to activate some of them. You have to cultivate some of them, but one of them we use every single day, most of us at least.
Your weapons are courage, confidence, love, and your words. Now, when it comes to attacking fear, love is the strongest weapon of all because fear is a spiritual force. That’s in the first chapter and the 7th verse of second Timothy in the Bible, where it says: You’ve not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind. So, when we talk about not being given a spirit of fear, you know that fears a spiritual force. You know that it is something that you can deal with. The good news is that you have the power to ball it up and put in a can and just get rid of that forever. You can do that. Now, why do I say that love is the strongest weapon? I keep going back to the Bible because fear is of a spiritual nature. You have to understand how to deal with it and I’m giving you spiritual scriptures. It says perfect love casts out fear. That’s first John chapter four and the18th verse in the Bible. So, if you know that perfect love casts out fear, you know that love is your strongest weapon. These are things that I have learned over time and they do work. So, I’m not just giving you a bunch of weapons that I haven’t used myself. These are my weapons and I’m using them. I don’t live in fear, and because I’ve cultivated these weapons and continue to cultivate them. I activated them person first and then cultivated them to make them stronger. I continue to make them stronger and I do that by meditating, praying, and reading my scriptures. I have my affirmations and my visualization. I have a whole ritual when I wake up first thing in the morning. I’m going to give you an example of how perfect love casts out fear. Take for example, when a couple is arguing there is strife. So, instead of resorting to strife and arguing, and worrying and creating anxiety when something goes wrong, you find your love energy. All the arguing and the strife do not make it better, instead, it stretches it out longer. If you’re afraid of something then you want to find your love energy.
Listen, when you can learn to use the weapons of confidence, courage, love, and your words, then you will defeat fear and you will get rid of it whenever it pops up. The stronger you become in that area, less fear will pop up in your life because it’s a spiritual force. So, when you can subdue something and your spiritual force of love is stronger, and it’s perfected, then there’s no room for fear. That’s why I do not agree with the notion that it’s ok to be a little afraid. Don’t even give fear on inch. Don’t give it a milli-inch. That’s not a real thing but we’ll go with that. Just use your love energy, build your confidence, and build your courage. You build your courage by using your words. You speak who you are. You speak what you want and you go for what you want, and you don’t let anybody or anything stop you from being your very best. Is there’s something that you want in your life? Write it down right now. Write it down today and tell yourself that you’re going for it. You’re going to map out a plan and you’re going to go forward. Now, if you’re at your job, map out a plan. I have mentioned Melinda Emerson’s book in which she gives you a 12 month plan- an exit strategy, so that you can make a smooth transition. I didn’t include this in the weapons that will combat fear, but I will add this to the list. Whenever I was going through situations, I pinpointed the things that I was afraid of losing, and then I went and find different ways to maintain what I had and to recover my life on a certain level that works for me. This was necessary so that I can have my piece and so that I could be comfortable with being me. So, my point is that when you get that knowledge which is a part of really attacking fear, you attack fear straight on. You dissect that thing and just become like a of fear fight ninja. You go for it and you make your life happen, and you do that using your courage, your confidence, your love, and your words. Speak what you want for your life, and if someone speaks against it, don’t even don’t even entertain them or even counteract it with them. Don’t even get into it with them because strife opens the door to fear. Don’t even bother. You just make up your mind about what you’re going to do.
Hey you guys, I have talked a long time today because fear is a subject that we need to deal with. I’m going to wrap up now on this Thriving Thursday. You’ll notice there were no commercials and we jumped right into fear and getting rid fear. Tomorrow we are going to talk about how confessions and laughter activates everything. We are going to learn even more about how to combat fear because we can’t possibly do it all in one show. We’ll learn a little bit more about fear. We are going to have some fun with confessions and laughter. No, I will not be telling jokes. The thing is that you are going to learn how to combat fear even more because it is a big deal. It’s time that we stop playing around with it. It’s time that we stop acting like we’re little weak whiny babies because we’ve not been given a spirit of fear. You’ve been given a spirit of power and so, you are super powerful. With that being said, you guys go out today and enjoy this Thriving Thursday and do life with power.